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5 things to do before labour begins

Posted by angela j Feb 15, 2019 Birth, Burlington, Burlington Doula, dance, Doula, motherhood, Oakville, Oakville Doula, parenthood, parenting, Pregnancy, Prenatal Yoga Doula, Doula Burlington, Doula Oakville Leave a Comment

Those last few weeks of pregnancy are tough. Physically, your belly has grown larger than you ever thought imaginable. Isn’t it amazing that your child has been growing in there, and your body supporting him? Emotionally most women are just done and want labour to start. Endless questions from family, friends and strangers asking “when is the baby due” have got you feeling like this pregnancy is never going to end. Remember that your due date is called an estimated due date and babies sometime need more time. So, here are some things you can do to enjoy and cherish these precious days before life gets a bit more chaotic with a newborn!

Plan lunch, dinner, or coffee dates with friends. It might be a while before you will have time to do this again so relish these moments to connect with the people you love. Their conversation and company will surely keep your mind off of due dates and labour and the enjoyment might just get some oxytocin moving through your body!
Pamper yourself! Book a massage, pedicure, hair cut, whatever suits you and let yourself relax and enjoy. It’s unlikely you will have a chance to do any of this type of self-care once baby is here and why not start labour rested and refreshed.
Speaking of refreshed….TAKE NAPS! Take many naps, lots of naps! The better rested you are when labour starts the more energy you will have to bring baby earth side.
DANCE! Put on your favourite booty-shaking songs and dance away. This movement will help you relax all of your muscles around your pelvis and get baby into an optimal position. Plus dancing just makes you feel good!
Make love! There I said it. Sexual intercourse is known to help soften your cervix as semen contains prostaglandins and the uterine contractions during an orgasm release oxytocin which help during labour. If this sounds like the furthest thing from what you would enjoy this late in your pregnancy how about a snuggle and some smooching. That would also be beneficial in getting labour going and a great way for you and your partner to connect before most of your attention is needed to care for your baby.

I know this is a difficult stage but remember that you will soon be staring into the eyes of your new baby!

The Busy Mom’s Guide to Getting Fit and Strong

Posted by angela j Jan 7, 2019 Doula, fitness, health, kids, motherhood, new year's resolutions, Oakville, parenthood, parenting, passion, Prenatal Yoga, sports, workout, yoga mom and baby fitness, mom and baby workout Leave a Comment

A new year is upon us and many see this as an opportunity to make or improve on some healthy habits. I know I do! I am a mom of two busy kids; an eleven year old daughter and a nine year old son. Before they were born I was very active playing rugby at an amateur level and hitting the gym 5-7 days a week. I remember saying to my husband that once the kids were born I wasn’t going to make excuses not to maintain this pace….Wow, was I in for a surprise! The truth is that once you become a parent all of your priorities change and it becomes challenging to find time for yourself when your little humans need a lot of your time and attention. I hope this guide gives you some ideas and motivation for yourself but I am also available if you want to brainstorm for your personal situation.

First of all, let’s just take a moment to acknowledge your body the way it is today in all of its wonder and glory. You made a baby (or babies) and for that you should be proud! We can still love our bodies and be grateful for all that they have done yet want to become stronger and fitter. Be weary of quick fixes or too-good-to-be-true solutions. This stuff is hard work and takes dedication to make every day changes, but so worth it for your health and the health and happiness of your family. From a very young age I remember engaging in active pursuits with my parents and watching them play sports. This has stayed with me over the years and I already see it impacting my children. Never feel guilty for wanting to spend time working on yourself Momma!

Over the last ten years my exercise regime has changed and evolved based on many factors, but primarily the needs of my children. So I’ve broken this guide down by years to help you.

IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING BIRTH

Every woman and every birth (even by the same woman!) is so different. Immediately after birth the only thing you should be concerned about is healing and bonding with your baby. Slow things down and enjoy this time. There will be plenty of time later to think about workouts. The best workout or “workin” you can do at this stage is deep belly breathing, it helps to reduce stress, aids in milk production, and tones your abdominals. The other “exercise” that is helpful at this stage is Kegels. Once you have been given the green light by your midwife or doctor then you can consider incorporating more. I would also recommend getting seen by a physiotherapist that specializes in postnatal core rehab to rule out diastasis recti (abdominal separation), prolapse, or pelvic floor issues.

FIRST YEAR AFTER BIRTH

Maternity leave is a great time to start some healthy habits because you have taken on the most important role of your life; Mom! First and foremost, nutrition is key in all stages of life. Start or maintain healthy eating habits now to feel your best. There are so many fitness options these days for new moms in most communities and at home. There are a lot of gyms that have childminding if you feel comfortable leaving your baby. However, if you do not there is a plethora of Mom and Baby classes that are mother-centered but allow baby to be in a carrier or close by so that you can stop if needed to attend to your baby. While at home programs might be convenient, they may leave you feeling isolated, lonely and unmotivated. Perhaps a combination of classes and at home workouts is the best option for you. Classes are great because you get to meet other moms and they are tailored to the postpartum body. If the weather is nice grab a friend and take baby out for a stroll. Mom and baby yoga, mom and baby fitness, dance classes, barre, aqua-fit….the choices are endless. I enjoyed mom and baby yoga, salsa babies and walks outside (even in very cold temps) with my first baby. When I was tired from frequent waking at night or not eating properly, I let myself rest. This is very important so give yourself time to get back at it gradually. Try different classes to find the right combination for you. A trainer that you connect with, class times and location that work best, and costs are all factors to consider. See below for my classes west of the GTA.

BACK TO WORK: THE TODDLER YEARS

This was by far the most difficult time for me and I can honestly say that after my first I struggled for a while to find the right balance. Long working hours and commutes make it very difficult to prioritize yourself. Time with your toddler seems so precious that you can’t bear to leave them.

Here are some ideas:

6am workouts! I know that sounds painful but I can guarantee if you do this consistently you will be astounded at how good you feel for the rest of the day. It’s out of the way and it frees up time in the evening to be with your children.

Noon workouts! Take time on your lunch hour to workout, find a gym close to your place of employment and I guarantee this will become a regular part of your day.

Good news is toddlers need a lot of sleep and usually go to bed quite early. If you have enough energy an 8pm class might be the ticket for you. Then on your days home take your children out for a walk or to play at the park, get active with them when you can so that they see how important it is. Pushing a child on a swing or chasing them around a park IS a workout!

THE SCHOOL AGE YEARS

Once when my kids were in the baby/toddler stage another mom warned me that life would only get busier once my kids were slightly older and involved in extra-curricular activities. I didn’t believe her but now that they are I totally get it. Evenings and weekends are spent taxiing and carpooling all over the city for their sports and activities. I love that they are active and involved but it consumes a lot of time. So now how do you fit in a workout?

When my kids could play a little more independently at the park I would do a workout near them. I would plan out my exercises and reps and do my burpees, squats etc at the playground. Once in a while I would be needed to push a swing then I would get back to it.

Running with little ones in a stroller or chariot, this is a tough one but everyone wins!

6am’s are a good option. I do yoga in my home in the early mornings and it’s not always peaceful. My son is an early riser so some times he cuddles on my blankets and bolsters while I finish my practice but it’s ok, at least I got some in (I figure this is just part of the Mom life and I get savasana with a little-man cuddle).

Noon workouts again are great because it frees up your evenings to spend with the kids doing homework or taking them to their activities. If you can manage it why not strap on your runners for a jog or head to the gym while they are doing their sports. I see so many parents scrolling through their phones or playing Candy Crush when they could use that time more wisely. My daughter’s dance lessons become a run around the neighbourhood for me during warm weather or a weight session at my gym closeby. Sure I’m sweaty when I pick her up but the endorphins feel amazing. Plan activities you can do as a family like skiing, skating or biking. Head to the park and chase a ball. Getting active as a family is wonderful on so many levels!

AFTER PRIMARY SCHOOL WHEN YOUR KIDS DON’T WANT TO BE AROUND YOU MUCH (LOL)

Ok so I don’t have any experience with this stage yet. I do envy the other Moms at my gym who are at this stage and get more workouts in during the week than I do, but I figure these years are so precious and my time will come. I know it seems daunting at times when there is so much to accomplish during the day. Lifestyle changes take time and perseverance but feeling strong physically is so important as a Mom to keep you balanced emotionally. Go to bed early, eat well, drink lots of water and plan those workouts in advance. Not only will you see major changes in yourself but those kiddos of yours will thank you one day! Best of luck Mommas and if you need support and motivation please reach out, we are here to support one another! -Namaste

How a Doula Can Ease Anxiety During Childbirth

Posted by angela j Nov 19, 2024 Baby, Birth, Birth doula, Breastfeeding, Burlington, Burlington Doula, Doula, health, kids, motherhood, Oakville, Oakville Doula, parenthood, parenting, Pregnancy, Prenatal Yoga, yoga childbirth Leave a Comment

Childbirth is a life-changing event, one that can be filled with anticipation, excitement, and, for some, significant anxiety or fear. Whether it’s the unknown aspects of labour, concerns about pain, or the experience of past trauma, the emotional and mental hurdles leading up to and during birth can be overwhelming. This is where a birth doula can be a game-changer, especially for individuals who experience anxiety or fear surrounding childbirth.

If you are someone with anxiety or fear about giving birth, here are some compelling reasons why hiring a birth doula might help you navigate your pregnancy and birth experience with greater confidence and calm.

1. Emotional Support and Reassurance

A birth doula’s primary role is to provide continuous emotional support. For someone dealing with anxiety or fear, the presence of a calming, supportive figure can make a significant difference in how they cope with the unknowns of labour. Doulas are trained to offer reassurance, validate your feelings, and provide a calming presence during moments of stress or panic. This kind of emotional support can help you feel more grounded, reduce fear, and allow you to focus on your breathing and relaxation techniques.

2. Increased Confidence and Empowerment

Anxiety and fear can often stem from a sense of helplessness or lack of control. Doulas work to empower birthing individuals by helping them understand their options, educating them about the birth process, and advocating for their preferences. This knowledge and support can alleviate fear by giving you a sense of autonomy and control over your birth experience. When you feel more informed and involved in the decision-making process, it can reduce feelings of vulnerability and uncertainty.

3. Stress Reduction and Coping Techniques

Labour can be an intense experience, and anxiety often escalates when individuals feel they are not prepared for the physical sensations or the emotional intensity. A doula offers various techniques to help manage pain and anxiety, including deep breathing exercises, guided meditation, visualization, massage, and other relaxation strategies. These methods can reduce stress, help you stay present in the moment, and minimize the intensity of anxiety during labour. Knowing that a doula is there to guide you through these techniques can help reduce the overall fear surrounding birth.

4. Continuous Support Through Labor

Unlike many healthcare providers who may not be able to stay with you for the entire duration of labor, a doula offers continuous presence. This unbroken support can be incredibly reassuring, especially for those dealing with anxiety. Knowing that someone is there to advocate for your needs, provide comfort, and guide you through each stage of labor can make the experience feel less isolating. The consistency of care also allows you to remain more relaxed and open, which can help reduce the anxiety associated with labor’s unpredictable nature.

5. Trauma-Informed Care

For individuals who have experienced trauma—whether that trauma is related to previous birth experiences, personal history, or other factors—a doula can offer trauma-informed care. They approach the birth process with sensitivity to your emotional needs, work to avoid triggering past trauma, and help you feel more in control of your body and birth. This can be especially important for someone with anxiety, as it creates an environment where you feel safe and supported throughout the process.

6. Navigating Fears and Uncertainty

Fear of the unknown is one of the most common sources of anxiety during pregnancy and birth. A doula can help address these fears by providing honest, evidence-based information about what to expect during labour and birth. By answering questions and discussing any concerns you may have, doulas help demystify the birth process, making it less intimidating. Additionally, doulas can work with you to create a birth plan that addresses your specific fears and preferences, giving you a sense of preparedness.

7. Advocacy and Communication with Healthcare Providers

In some cases, anxiety and fear are exacerbated by the lack of clear communication with medical professionals. A doula can act as a bridge between you and your healthcare team, helping to ensure that your preferences and concerns are heard and respected. They can also provide clarity on medical procedures, explain what’s happening during labour, and help you feel more confident in your interactions with doctors, midwives, and nurses. Knowing that someone is advocating for you can ease the feeling of being overwhelmed or unheard.

8. Postpartum Support

The support of a doula doesn’t end once the baby is born. Many doulas offer postpartum care to help with the emotional and physical recovery after childbirth. For someone with anxiety, the postpartum period can also be a challenging time, as the body adjusts and new emotions and experiences arise. A doula can offer support during this time by providing reassurance, addressing any concerns, and helping with the adjustment to parenthood. They may also offer guidance on breastfeeding, infant care, and self-care, which can help ease postpartum anxiety.

9. A Non-Judgmental Support System

One of the most important aspects of hiring a doula is the knowledge that they will offer support without judgment. Whether you have fears about certain aspects of birth or want to discuss your concerns openly, a doula provides a safe, accepting space. This non-judgmental support can be especially valuable for someone with anxiety, as it allows you to process your emotions freely, without fear of being criticized or misunderstood.

Conclusion: A Doula Can Help You Breathe Easier

For those dealing with anxiety or fear about childbirth, hiring a doula can provide a sense of calm, control, and support throughout the birth experience. From emotional reassurance and coping techniques to advocacy and trauma-informed care, a doula can be a powerful ally in creating a birth experience that is as empowering and positive as possible. By choosing a doula, you are not only investing in physical support but also in your mental and emotional well-being during one of life’s most significant milestones.

Best Time to Hire a Doula for Expecting Parents

When Is the Best Time to Hire a Doula?

Deciding to hire a doula can be one of the most empowering choices for expecting parents. A doula provides emotional, physical, and informational support during pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum, enhancing the birth experience. But one question often arises: When is the best time to hire a doula? The answer depends on your individual needs and preferences, but there are several key considerations to keep in mind as you navigate the timing of this important decision.

The First Trimester: Planning Ahead

If you’re someone who likes to plan and organize early, the first trimester is a good time to start exploring doula services. During this period, you have ample time to research different doulas, meet with them, and see who feels like the best fit for you and your partner. This early timing can also be beneficial if you want your doula involved throughout the entire pregnancy, offering guidance on nutrition, stress management, and prenatal exercises.

Hiring a doula in the first trimester is especially helpful if you have special considerations such as a high-risk pregnancy, a previous traumatic birth experience, or anxiety about childbirth. Having someone knowledgeable to talk to right from the start can be immensely reassuring. Starting your search early also increases the chance that your chosen doula has availability to support you.

The Second Trimester: Getting Comfortable

The second trimester is the most common time for expectant parents to hire a doula. By this point, many people have had their initial ultrasounds and are feeling more settled in their pregnancy. It’s also a period when you’re likely starting to think more seriously about your birth plan, your preferences for labor and delivery, and what kind of support you’ll need.

Doulas can assist you during this phase by helping you draft your birth preferences, providing evidence-based information on various birthing options, and supporting you through any challenges that may arise, like managing stress or navigating conversations with healthcare providers. Hiring a doula during the second trimester allows plenty of time to build a rapport, understand each other’s communication styles, and create a strong support system before labor begins.

The Third Trimester: Final Preparations

While earlier is usually ideal, hiring a doula in the third trimester is still very much an option, especially if your circumstances have changed or if you’ve only recently learned about the benefits of having a doula. This is a crucial time when you may be finalizing your birth plan, attending childbirth classes, and preparing for the reality of labor and delivery.

Doulas hired in the third trimester often jump right in, providing intensive support and guidance as you approach your due date. They can help answer last-minute questions and ensure you’re mentally and emotionally ready for the experience. Even with limited time, a doula can still be a vital presence during labor and postpartum recovery.

Hiring a Doula During Labor

Although not as common, some doulas offer last-minute or on-call services, which means you can hire them once you’re already in labor. This can happen if you had an unexpected change of plans, or if you’ve realized during labor that additional support would be beneficial. A doula brought in at this stage will focus primarily on providing immediate physical and emotional support during labor and delivery.

While this approach has limitations—such as less time to build rapport or understand your preferences—having a doula’s presence can still make a significant positive impact on your birthing experience.

Considerations for Postpartum Doulas

If your primary concern is support after birth, a postpartum doula may be what you need. Postpartum doulas specialize in assisting with newborn care, breastfeeding, and the emotional transitions that come with becoming a parent. It’s ideal to hire a postpartum doula before the baby arrives, so you can arrange for support during those crucial early weeks. Many parents find it helpful to book a postpartum doula during the second trimester to secure availability and begin planning for life after delivery.

Tips for Finding the Right Doula at the Right Time

No matter when you choose to hire a doula, there are a few steps that can help you find the right fit:

Research Early: Start by gathering information on what doulas offer and how their services align with your needs. Take a look at their social media presence and see if it matches your image of who your doula should be.
Interview Several Candidates: Meet with multiple doulas to discuss your expectations, birth preferences, and how they approach their role.
Check References and Credentials: Ask for recommendations from other parents or healthcare providers, and inquire about their training and experience.
Trust Your Instincts: Choose someone you feel comfortable with, who listens to you, and who respects your birth philosophy and values.

Final Thoughts

There is no “perfect” time to hire a doula. The right timing depends on when you feel ready for the support, when you want to start building a relationship, and what kind of guidance you hope to receive throughout your pregnancy and birth journey. Whether you’re seeking help from the moment you see that positive pregnancy test or deciding at the last minute that extra support would be beneficial, a doula’s presence can help create a more positive and fulfilling birthing experience.

Hiring a doula is an investment in your wellbeing and empowerment during one of life’s most transformative events. Whenever you choose to welcome that support into your life, you’ll be giving yourself the gift of compassionate care and personalized attention tailored to your unique needs.

Reach out to me to schedule a complimentary consultation!

RELAUNCHING PRENATAL AND POSTNATAL YOGA & MOVEMENT CLASSES

Posted by angela j Feb 5, 2024 Burlington, Doula, fitness, Happiness, health, motherhood, new year's resolutions, Oakville, Oakville Doula, parenthood, parenting, Postnatal Doula, Pregnancy, Prenatal Yoga, workout, yoga Leave a Comment

For 12 years I supported young families in Halton through prenatal yoga, postnatal yoga and fitness classes. It was through these classes that doula work found me. I grew a lovely community of parents and their babies and I’ve stayed in contact with many of them. When lockdowns closed studios, my classes ended abruptly. I tried to do online classes on zoom for a while but it just wasn’t for me. I was asked by multiple studios to come back and start weekly classes again but it just wasn’t ever the right fit for me and the work I do as a doula.

I am now happy to say that I am offering in-home yoga and movement classes again in Halton region. I have limited day-time slots available for individuals or small groups. Clients commit to at least 4 weeks of classes. I come to your home with yoga props to make it very convenient for you.

Prenatal Yoga & Movement:

One-hour session designed to alleviate pregnancy discomforts and prepare the body for birth and parenthood. Movements are tailored to your body. Each session contains active and restful components leaving you feeling energized and peaceful.

Baby and Me Yoga & Movement:

One-hour session designed to promote strengthening and healing through movement and breath work. Baby stays close and might be incorporated into some of the exercises. All movements are designed with postpartum healing in mind.

Grab some gal pals and make a commitment to yourself.

Contact me for rates and availability. Spots are limited!

Embracing Empowerment: The Benefits of Prenatal Breast Hand Expression

Posted by angela j Jan 15, 2024 Baby, Breastfeeding, Burlington, Burlington Doula, Doula, Happiness, health, motherhood, Oakville, Oakville Doula, parenthood, Pregnancy Leave a Comment

Pregnancy is a transformative journey marked by numerous physical and emotional changes. Amidst the excitement and anticipation, expectant mothers often seek ways to enhance their prenatal experience and prepare for the upcoming breastfeeding journey. One empowering technique gaining attention is prenatal breast hand expression. This gentle practice offers a multitude of benefits for both mother and baby, fostering a stronger connection and setting the stage for a successful breastfeeding experience. As a doula, I have been teaching this technique to my clients for several years and I have observed that those who practice prenatal hand expression generally have more confidence when starting to breastfeed baby.

Here are some of the benefits:

1. **Establishing a Bond Before Birth:**

Prenatal breast hand expression provides an opportunity for expectant mothers to connect with their unborn baby. As they gently massage and express colostrum, the first milk produced during pregnancy, mothers establish a physical connection that transcends the womb. This intimate act fosters a sense of closeness and enhances the emotional bond between mother and child before birth.

2. **Promoting Early Colostrum Collection:**

Colostrum, often referred to as “liquid gold,” is a concentrated source of nutrients and antibodies crucial for a newborn’s early development. Prenatal hand expression enables mothers to collect this precious substance in small amounts before giving birth. Storing colostrum can be particularly beneficial in case of any breastfeeding challenges postpartum, or separation from baby, ensuring the baby receives this essential nutrition from the very beginning.

3. **Reducing Engorgement and Discomfort:**

Engorgement, the swelling of breasts due to an increased blood flow and milk production, is a common postpartum concern. Prenatal hand expression can help reduce the risk of engorgement by gradually releasing built-up colostrum. This proactive approach contributes to a more comfortable breastfeeding experience for the mother and encourages the baby to latch onto the breast more easily.

4. **Boosting Maternal Confidence:**

Learning and mastering prenatal breast hand expression empowers expectant mothers by giving them a hands-on understanding of their bodies. This newfound skill fosters confidence as they approach the breastfeeding journey, knowing that they can actively contribute to their baby’s well-being from the very start. Maternal confidence is a key factor in the success of breastfeeding relationships.

5. **Preparing for Potential Breastfeeding Challenges:**

Breastfeeding may present challenges, such as latch issues or delayed milk production. Prenatal breast hand expression serves as a proactive measure, equipping mothers with the skills to navigate these challenges. By familiarizing themselves with their bodies and learning to express colostrum, expectant mothers are better prepared to address potential breastfeeding hurdles with resilience and determination.

In embracing prenatal breast hand expression, expectant mothers embark on a journey of empowerment and connection with their unborn child. This gentle practice not only promotes the early collection of valuable colostrum but also nurtures maternal confidence and prepares mothers for the breastfeeding adventure that lies ahead. By incorporating this technique into their prenatal routine, mothers can lay the foundation for a positive breastfeeding experience, promoting the health and well-being of both themselves and their newborns. Teaching this technique and providing my clients with more resources is one way I can support their infant feeding journey.

Birth and postpartum doula services in and around Halton region